Thank you, HP.
I am happy to let the site heal and have tried to do so by declining to read any of Sluffy's posts which are transparently aggressive and now sneering towards me and others who politely point out his foibles.
He has basically called me a liar (about my work). I feel I should reply. His insults and accusations have gone too far.
I worked for many years as Head of English and Head of Year at a delightful private school. I eventually retired slightly early (when Gove wrecked the English syllabus!) to concentrate on my other postgraduate qualifications as a Stress Management consultant, using autogenic training as the principal tool to help groups in weekly adult education classes and individuals with more complex issues in my private practice.
I love sport, have played at a reasonably high level, and enjoy reading news and views about BWFC on Nuts. Sadly, I was accused of being "fake" almost from day one, which is why I sympathise with Hip Priest and Xmiles who have resented similar treatment. Efforts to reason with the moderation of the site have not been met with positive response, but I have swallowed any ill-feelings (until provoked!) and happily continued to use the site.
Please excuse me for having used my perception of some Nuts posters as the basis for interesting characters in the novel I'm writing.
I have a wife, children and lots of friends around the country who also support the Whites, and so will continue to devote time to Nuts.
Thanks to everyone who has made membership interesting, fun and thought-provoking.
Right you've had your say, I'm sure everyone believes every word of it, it is after all on the internet so it must be true...
Fwiw this is what Karly said directly to you FOUR MONTHS AGO...
I can’t believe we are going through all this bloody shit again. This is getting to be trolling in all fairness
If you were serious about this issue then why did you not PM Sluffy directly? Is it because you wanted to create all this drama to amuse yourself?
You really need to pack it in!
This is you 'promising' never to mention it again...
Agreed, Sluffy. Truce on all sides to be never mentioned again! Virtually, shake on this promise!
Yet here you are again deliberately attempting to stir up all the shit once more just TWO DAYS AGO...
Apologies for going over old ground here, but Xmiles was an excellent, regular contributor to the site.....intelligent, fair-minded, interesting, principled.... yet he was wrongly accused of being a "fake poster" which infuriated him to the point where he gave up arguing that the accusation was completely unfounded and untrue....... and, in any case, it should not have mattered either way!
Losing his input was completely unnecessary but, quite understandably for someone so principled, he felt hounded and harassed to the point where he had no option but to resign.
Other good Nuts members have also left this year, all while our chief mod goes out of his way to deign to educate us at length and Tenbob sneers at us "twerps".....
Whilst I'm at it I might as well throw this in too!
Here is you telling us about Autogenic Training...
Sluffy does mention one useful thing.....exercise.
Autogenic Training delivered professionally will also help your body and mental state fight stress, to target the specific problem. (It does not
include massage, and definitely not
deep breathing which should be avoided.)
If you do go down this route. Norpig, make sure your practitioner is fully qualified and not some amateur psychologist.
...and you telling us telling us you are a fully qualified and successful practioner...
No digs intended, Sluffy. As a fully qualified and successful practitioner for over 20 years, I was simply trying to help Norpig remotely, and acknowledged that your idea of exercise was a good one, as are many of KP's suggestions, like finding time for walking and appreciating nature.
I was pointing out that deep breathing is not recommended. Massage was not mentioned by me and the interpretation of positive thought processes as "happy thoughts" is misguided.
What is important is being able to alleviate the problems caused by external causes of stress through relaxation techniques so that the immune system can function properly. Body and mind are inter-dependent.
If confident that approaching a boss or other member of staff will get a sympathetic response, then of course that would be beneficial.
...you even tell us you have a post grad degree in your post today - very impressive...
...I eventually retired slightly early (when Gove wrecked the English syllabus!) to concentrate on my other postgraduate qualifications as a Stress Management consultant, using autogenic training as the principal tool to help groups in weekly adult education classes and individuals with more complex issues in my private practice.
...so with all these 'twenty years' of experience, being so highly qualified with your post grad degree and being such a 'successful practitioner' helping groups and individuals with more 'complex issues' as you state, why have you any issues with me or anyone else for that matter?
I'm just a completely random poster off the internet?
There is far, far worse people than me out there. I really am just a big docile, old pussycat compared to most who vent their spleens on social media!
You have all these years of skills, knowledge, experience and success (or so you claim) but you can't seem to use them to keep thinking happy thoughts and take a few deep breaths or whatever it is your years of training and experience tells you to do in respect to little old me - and lets face it, I'm just words on the ether just like billions of others around the world who post on social media!
Something does fit right here does it?
If you really are what you claim to be then you should know full well how to deal with me and reacting to me by posting up your little pops at me and stirring up others, certainly isn't it - is it?
I believe you to be a troll playing games, if others believe you to be what you claim to be that's up to them but I point out that you've 'promised' before to stop all this and you haven't and you claim to have all these skills yet you even say this in your post above...
"...I have swallowed any ill-feelings
...twenty years being a successful practitioner dealing with folk with 'complex' issues and you still get 'provoked
' by something said on the internet by someone you don't even know from Adam and you harbour 'ill-feelings
Yeah right...very skilled and professional of you...
It has got to stop once and for all.
We are not going back to how the site has been - I trust that is clear and understood by all now.