Like it or not he IS the 'spare'.
He has a fabulous lifestyle BUT he is in the public spotlight - that's the deal.
If it isn't for him, then step away quietly - that's all he had to do.
So he's got problems with his family - most of us do at one point or another but you sort it out (or not) behind closed doors - not in the world's full gaze.
Smacks of being a self entitled, spoilt brat to me - he's not going to be the King, his older brother is, that's how it works - and his brothers wife is going to be the Queen one day - so of course Harry and Megan aren't treated in exactly the same way as the next King and Queen (his brother and his mrs) are!!!
It isn't rocket science, it isn't because Megan is black / mixed race (or whatever is the correct PC way of address) it is because she isn't going to be a Queen and Kate is.
Surely that hasn't just dawned on him has it, surely he would have known that from being little?
There's clearly something wrong with him, you don't trash your family to the world and then expect everything to be better once he's had his say?
You don't say his family is racist, admit to being a druggy, brag he killed a load of Taliban and think HE is the 'normal' one in all this and it's 'the others' who are the one who caused all problems.
He's clearly not the sharpest tool in the box and he needs to shut up and sort his issues out with his dad and brother and not make millions from it by writing books and doing TV specials.
He's well and truly burned his bridges now.
If I was his dad I'd still invite him to my special day (he's still his son no matter what he's done) but if I was Harry I wouldn't go - but would go secretly to see his dad and brother away from the cameras and press - and tell him that no matter what I've said and done, no matter if they can't see it from his side - that he loves them both and always will because they are family and always will be.
That however is the root cause of it to my way of thinking - he doesn't see them as family - he sees his mum as family, that she was 'pushed out' and that he's now been 'pushed out' too.
He should now take his millions and go and live the quiet life incognito - but we all know he won't, don't we!