karlypants wrote:Sluffy, I get the feeling that from your links the bloke had some mental health issue of some sort.
I suspect the same.
On the face of it he was married and had three kids but from what was said he died alone.
Something must have happened and it doesn't seem to fit with him having some terminal illness - I would imagine he would have had support around him that being the case.
Whatever did happen to him he went far too young and left his sons behind.
It certainly must be hard on those who loved him.
I'm no expert on mental health but I've had to go through serious shit in my time.
I can only speak for myself but I found that the way I coped was through talking about it - to anyone really, even if they didn't want to listen.
Of course no one has the answers - you can't bring a loved one back to life if they had died for instance - but I found talking about all the bad stuff somehow helped me to come to terms with things - it sort of helped me to process what had happened (by going external - if you will), whereas my brain wouldn't somehow process things internally - probably because they hurt so much.
I found this method all by myself back then but in recent years it has become a more well known thing to do.
Easy to say and all that but in order to do it you have to face up to your demons, whilst you are having to accept that whatever shit you are also going through isn't going to turn out good for you in the end.
You've got to let it out and go from you, otherwise it just festers and eats you up from the inside.
Ironically I can see an awful lot of posters on social media who do carry grudges and hatred about with them - they feed on it and it makes them worse.
Honestly who cares about what happened thirty, forty, fifty years ago - United fans throwing stones at our bus, the Thatcher years, Brexit, even our disallowed goal against Everton - they've gone, they can't be changed, time to let it go and move on with our lives.
I don't know what happened to poor Sharps but I suspect something more recently happened bad to him and he's not been able to let it go and it has ended the way it has.
All I can say is if anyone ever is in a hole, then reach out - a burden shared and all that.
It really does work - I know first hand.